The ride that never stops….being a Parent!

Published : 9:51 am  October 21, 2015 | No comments so far |  | 


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When does that point where the greatest relationship in our life, ‘parent to child’ come to an untimely death? When my first child was born, her birth gave rise to a new me, The Parenting me.

I was not one of those women who in their adolescence, with innocent girlish glee, snicker with their friends about who I would marry and what my children’s names would be. I was career driven, having spent a good part of my life in various universities I had a mission to succeed. But marriage and shortly my first child arrived.

I and my heart fell hard. Gone was the need to be bigger and better in my career. I was blissfully happy holding baby, folding nappies and cooing nursery rhymes, umpteen number of education degrees forgotten. The Parenting relationship unlike other relationships in your life will, in my opinion, never end. You stop being a child, you stop being a teenager, you lose friendships.  Sometimes you even stop being husband and wife but through it all being a Parent never has a stop and eject button.

Yes of course in the early years, being a parent is obvious. You need to be there for your children as they grow from infants to children. They rely on you for more obvious needs such as food and shelter, but  just like the baby ducks who follow the mother duck, you are their sole source of comfort in the big bad world that they have come into. You need to guide them during their hormonal tumultuous teen years and as they approach semi-adulthood you cross your fingers and pray to the gods that they have listened to all your good advice and will make the correct decisions in life. Being a parent to an adult is where you will really get tested on your parenting skills. Now that they are out of your house, it does not mean the parent to child relationship has been severed with that last wave goodbye. This is when you need to fine tune your parenting skills, you need to be there but not be too involved, you need to give advice but not criticise. It was probably a lot easier in their toddler years where if you didn’t like something you gave them a timeout and put them to bed at the end of the day. So parents of small childen, if you think your parenting life is hard, just talk to a parent who’s trying to deal with a tumultuous twenty-year old. That is another kettle of fish.


In all honesty, after three decades and a bit under my belt, I still need my parents. I still need ‘that super couple’ who I know will protect me through thick and thin.  They are the only ones who I will trust completely with my children, my life.

So folks in my book, once you’re a parent, you’re always a parent. It is the greatest relationship that you will ever have in your life. It might have you at your knees in despair one day or bursting at the seams with pride and joy the next. But remember, hug your children tightly, do right by them for if you fail your children, you fail yourselves, for they represent your immortality that will live on through the generations.
Never stop being a Parent!